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Maureen and Benson got married some ten years ago and their marriage
had never been blissful right from day one. “My marriage had never made me
happy, though people used to think the opposite because I pretend a lot. I had
complained severally to my mother, (my number one confidant), how I had longed to take a walk out of it but her advice and words of encouragement
had kept me on.
“Then of course my three children were like strong chains
that tied me down in Benson’s house even when he cheated on me without remorse.
Infidelity runs in my hubby’s blood like a stubborn virus. Right from the first
year he wedded me was when I noticed he still kept his strings of girlfriends.
And not even my pleas could make him stop. When I was advised to hold on to God
strongly, that it would make him stop, I started making church a safe haven,
yet he couldn’t stop. There was a period I tarried before God in prayer, so
much that my pastor said to me that God would have called my husband to glory because of what he was
doing to me but that He didn’t want to make me a widow,” she recalled.
“I took my pastor’s statement to him and he was scared. He
ran to meet him and pleaded with him to help him change. That time it looked as
if he had changed but he didn’t. Rather he started making his extra marital
affairs discreet. I never knew he was still in his normal escapades until I
discovered he was dating a young lady who was selling recharge cards just
opposite my house. I’m sorry to say here that when it comes to women, my
husband doesn’t have a taste at all. Anything in skirt goes for him. He wouldn’t
mind dating a housemaid, a salesgirl or anybody as long as the person is busty.
I say this because a lady I once employed to be helping me clean my house,
three times a week, was also sleeping with my husband in my absence. When I
caught them red-handed, the lady started confessing that it all started one
morning when she came to clean my house as usual ‘and Oga was in the house with his three children. He locked up his
children in their room and came to where I was cleaning the cushions and pushed
me on the cushion, tore the zipper of my skirt and pounced on me. When I wanted
to shout, I suddenly discovered that I couldn’t because in the process I
started liking what he was doing to me. That was how everything started Madam.
Please don’t be annoyed.’
“She said it before my husband who never said a word. What
he did was to pay her off and told her not to come again. But I knew the affair
never stopped at that, they continued but it was no more happening in my
house,” she stressed.
Though Benson had been making adequate provisions for his
family, but his major problem had been women. He was an unrepentant womanizer. “He
had never failed to give me feeding allowance, gifts when necessary especially
on our wedding anniversary and on my birthday. He loved his kids and showered
them with love and affection. But my
hubby’s major shortcoming still remained women. I wouldn’t know if that was a
curse. When I took this very complaint to his father who married three wives
and kept them in different states of the country, he only told me that I should
go home and thank my stars that Benson had been marrying only me for the past
ten years and that no woman had shown up and accused him of being the father of
her child. I was short of words when I heard that. It was his first wife (my mother-in-law’s)
advice that made sense to me. He told me that I shouldn’t worry so much over
that nor loose focus. That no matter how a man frolicked around like a Casanova
, he would still end up on the laps of his loving wife when the chips were down.
“She really spoke to me at length, counseling me gently and
she prayed for me and blessed me before I left. But even after reporting him to
his parents, Benson had never cared to relent.
The one incident that made me shed tears for weeks was the report a
neighbour brought to me. She came warning me to tell my husband to leave her 21
year-old- undergraduate daughter alone so that she could concentrate on her
studies. She honestly shouted at me angrily but I was short of words when my husband
didn’t deny it. He heard when the woman
was shouting at me. It was only when the woman had gone that he started saying
that the woman’s daughter was the one giving him green eyes and that when he
approached her, she welcomed him. That I should have asked her if he forced her
daughter on him. When I heard that, I broke down. I cried myself to sleep only
to wake up at the wee hours of the morning to pray. I was praying in tears, from the bottom of my
heart, pleading to God to take my husband and that I was ready to be a widow
and mourn him because the shame he was bringing to me was much.
“I didn’t know he heard me when I was praying. He heard all
that I told God in prayer. When I was done, I saw him kneeling down before me
for the first time in ten years, asking for forgiveness. He begged me to go back to God and cancel the
death pronouncement I made on him. That he was willing to change. He promised
never to hurt me again. That if he should die now, it would be an untimely
death because he was just 45 and that I would suffer as a widow with three
children on my neck. And that I should remember that widowhood in our society
had an ugly face and that I should please go back on my knees and reverse the
curse.
“He pleaded with me and made me believe him. I then forgave
him and held him close to my chest. There
on the spot, I started praying for God to forgive him. I continued praying, when
he started shaking as if he wanted to convulse, I was scared and I took my
hands off him and he fail on the floor while I ran away and watched him from a distance. After a while,
he came round and was saying that he felt very light while I was praying and
suddenly, he didn’t know what came over him,” she said.
Unfortunately, just after a few months, “my hubby went back
to his vomit. He decided to be dating just one out of his numerous girlfriends.
He got her a house somewhere in Shasha, Lagos, sparsely furnished. As if that
wasn’t enough, he sent her to a fashion school and he was the one paying her
school fees. I went back to my mid night prayers as well because I relented in
prayers when I thought he had changed. And just when the girl had graduated,
something tragic happened.”
To be continued
Part (2)
Here is the
concluding part of Maureen and Benson’s story started. Benson had
been battling with his shortcoming/habit which was womanizing even before he
got married. And Maureen his wife hadn’t been finding it funny. Below is the
rest of their story.
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Unfortunately, just after a few months, “my hubby went back
to his vomit. He decided to be dating
Florence, one of his numerous girlfriends who was known to be rude to
her parents according to neighbours. He
got her an apartment somewhere in Shasha, Lagos, sparsely furnished. As if that
wasn’t enough, he sent her to a skill training center where she was learning
how to cut and sew. He was the one sponsoring her training. When I heard on the
grapevine that my husband was head-over heels in love with her, I went back to
my mid-night prayers because I relented when
I thought he had changed. And just when the girl had graduated, something
tragic happened.”
Florence, had the best result in her school. That was what
warranted a celebration she never lived to witness the end. “My hubby who was good
at celebrating success and good things of life took her out later in the
evening after her graduation ceremony and they both lodged in a cozy hotel somewhere
in Ajao Estate, Lagos, far from where we
were residing. According to him, he wanted to spoil her silly with love and
care because she did excellently well in exams and graduated in flying colours.
So, they lodged in a suite in that three star hotel but while she was leaving her
Shasha, Lagos residence, she forgot to take her inhaler with her. Florence was asthmatic and she never went
anywhere without her inhaler except that very night my husband took her to
celebrate her success. So, while they had dined and wined, they went to
Silverbird galleria at Ikeja and watched some movies before coming back to the
hotel.
“Both were gorgeously but casually dressed because a neighbour’s younger
sister who was at the Galleria to watch
movies saw them and called her elder sister and told her about my husband and
how he was dressed with his girlfriend. I was heart broken when my neighbour
ran to me and told me. She encouraged me to hold my peace until he came back. I
waited patiently until he came back after three days,” she recalled.
When the two lovebirds came back from cinema house to their
hotel suite was when the Devil threw in a spanner that quaked the relationship.
Guess what happened? Benson scurried into the bathtub to have a warm bath. The
night was cold and he was in the habit of soaking himself in warm water in the
bathtub for almost an hour. “That was what he used to do at home too. He said
it was therapeutic. When I heard he did that in the hotel room where he was
lodged, I wasn’t surprised. My husband could stay in the bathtub for almost an
hour when he wasn’t going to work. According to reports, that was what happened
in the hotel suite. So, while he was in the bathtub, his girlfriend started
having severe asthmatic attack but she forgot her inhaler at home. So, while Benson was in the bathroom, she was
battling with asthma. Breathing was like a tug of war. She managed to crawl down
from the soft leathered cushion she was seated on to the bathroom for help. It
was indeed difficult to breath. She wriggled
on the floor for over 45 minutes. It was a herculean task crawling from the
living room of the hotel suite to the bathroom. And Benson was never aware of what
was happening. He was relaxing in the bathtub for the warm water to soothe his
aching bones and joints. When he stepped out of the bathtub, he stood before a
wall mirror still in the bathroom and ran his fingers on his jaw, cheeks and
armpits checking if his shaving was smooth.
He really spent some time shaving. He didn’t know what was happening to
his babe whom he was getting set to ‘devour’ because the music from TV speakers
was playing very loudly.
“When he eventually
stepped out of the bathtub, he was shocked when he saw her on the floor
wriggling for help. He knew she was asthmatic because when she confided in him
and told him her health conditions, he never failed to buy her inhaler. He
rushed to get her inhaler, turned her luggage upside down, including her
handbag and wallet looking for it, he didn’t see it. He suspected she must have
forgotten her inhaler at home. So, he hurriedly dressed up and rushed her to
the hospital and that was where she was certified dead,” she said.
Benson eventually came home looking harassed, In fact,
pensive! “Immediately I saw him, I knew he had battled with something bigger
than him. His eyes were swollen showing that he had cried for hours. When he
dropped his suite case, he went straight to his bathroom and locked himself in
there while I waited in his room. I was annoyed before he came in because I got
the report of his escapades with his girlfriend from a neigbour. But when I saw
him, I couldn’t ask him anything because I knew he wasn’t himself. I could hear
him crying in his bathroom, that was when I tapped on the door. He hesitated at
first before he opened and I saw him sobbing like a little boy. I knew he went
in there because he was avoiding me, he needed some privacy. When I asked what
was wrong, his answer even shocked me the more. ‘She died, hmm, she couldn’t
make it! Florence is dead! Maureen do
you know Florence is dead’?
“He asked me as if I knew the so-called Florence too well. I
was dumb-founded because he was confused. Totally confused, flabbergasted is
the right word. I listened to him as he narrated his ordeal.”
‘She battled with asthma for some time while I was having a
warm bath. We were in a hotel somewhere in Ajao Estate to celebrate her success.
I never knew she would die. Oh God, is
that how one could die? Just like that? Maureen do you know you can easily die?
Anybody can die at any moment. This is a shocker honestly. This world is vanity.
I’m astonished! How would I break this
sad news to her parents? How would they withstand the shock? Huh Maureen, how?’
“I was short of words. I had myriad of questions running
riot in my brain concerning his discreet affair with his late lover. I didn’t
know he was so serious with her that he already knew the girl’s parents. In my
mind, I told myself that it was his cross, let him carry it. But honestly, it
really hurts me watching my husband mourn his girlfriend. He gummed her picture
on his bed and when I complained that he was over doing it, he fumed and said I
was a wicked soul. ‘Maureen, I now know you are wicked. The person that died
was a good friend of mine. Show some pity for goodness sake. It wasn’t a dog
that died, a soul passed away. Who knows if you were not the person that killed
her. Because lately you have been in the habit of passing death pronouncements on
people in your prayers. You nearly did that to me, remember? Please leave that picture there, after all
it’s my bed that I gummed it on and not yours. Leave me alone, get out of my
room, so that I can pick the pieces of
my life.’
“At that, I walked out of his room and left him alone. But
it really hurts watching my husband rejecting
my meals all because his
girlfriend died. Where is my stand in this marriage for goodness sake? This is
absolutely nonsense!”
Readers,
you have heard Maureen’s question. Please advise her.
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