‘Oh God
save me! My hubby is a bully’ (1)
The only person who warned me in confidence was amiable Evelyn, the wife
of Edward’s brother. She had always liked
me even while Edward and I were courting.
We would sit together and chat but she had kept something from me until
after my engagement party. She called me to the balcony of Edward’s house the
night after my engament party and counselled me about something she had been
hiding from me. She told me that the very problem that ran in the family of
Edward was anger, severe anger, uncontrolable anger that usually make them use their fists. She told me that her husband
Kelvin, (Edward’s elder brother) had same problem. She raised her blouse and showed
me some marks on her body due to bruises Kelvin inflicted on her while
battering her angrily. She reminded me of the very time she had a black eye and
I was asking what happened to her. She said it was one night when Kelvin came
back from work and he hunked for a long time but because she was in the toilet,
she couldn’t run to open the gate for him. And that delay resulted in a serious
beating. ‘Therefore my sister just be careful so that you don’t annoy him. I
learnt from his mother that his father had same problem. That his mother was
regularly beaten by theor father that she decided to go back to her father’s
house. Even as we discuss this now, she
is still lives there. I go there once in a while to visit her. She was the one
that gave me same advice that I’m passing down to you now.
‘You may not notice it now that both of you are courting and
had just engaged. You may not even notice his anger in the next couple of years after marriage. But don’t be deceived
with that. The anger is right inside his foundation. If you had been careful,
you must have been noticing the traces.’ Evelyn said. “Her advice made me
remember some stories Edward told me
concerning the way he flogged his houseboy who fled without carrying his luggage. And how his gate keeper ran away one day
leaving his gate unlocked after beating him up mercilessly. He told me that
both people angered him so much that he had to deal with them. And that soon he
would employ people to replace them. I took that lightly. My mind wandered off
to the discussion his driver had with
his friend at the petrol station when he was asked to drop me home. I overheard
when his friend was asking him how he had been managing to drive Edward that
psycho, that ill tempered young man.
That he had driven him before for months and that the way and manner he fumed at him each time he was angry made him resign
unceremoniously. I was listening with rapt attention,” she said.
When Roselyn eventually moved into Edward’s house as his wife, what Evelyn
warned her about started surfacing. “It wasn’t even up to one year when I
started receiving slaps from him anytime
he was provoked. I gradually started becoming scared of him. I wasn’t feeling
at home when he was around. My matrimonial home was only a safe haven when
Edward traveled out of town for weeks
but when he was home, I would always trade with caution. Nobody knew what I was facing in my marriage.
But I didn’t know his neighbours who knew him more than me were observing us.
They had known him for beating his girlfriends before he married me. So, when
we were courting, they expected same incident, where I would perhaps give out a
loud cry like the rest did, but nothing of such happened. He never hit me when
we were courting. He started after our wedding and because I didn’t want my neighbours
to know, I would endure his punches without crying out. The first person I ran
to was Evelyn when it started. She advised me to travel home to see his mother,
my mother-in-law whom I only saw once and that was on my wedding day. I agreed
and went from her house after staying two days with her,” she said.
It was seven hours drive from Lagos to Enugu-Ukwu where
Edward’s mother was. When she got there, she didn’t introduce herself to the
woman and she recorgnised her at once. She hugged her and first accused her
jokingly for not coming to see her all these while. “Sit down my daughter let
me give you water to drink. But you don’t look happy. I know you are troubled
but drink water first. You would take your bath, eat and sleep. Tomorrow
morning we would talk okay? Close talks are better done early in the morning by
then the brains must have rested enough, okay?” Roseline nodded, fighting back
tears.
*To be
continued next week
‘Oh God
save me! My hubby is a bully’ (1)
When Roseline and Edward got married, little did she know
that a few years after their marriage the devil would throw what looked like a
spanner in the holy matrimony. “I didn’t know I would have that kind of problem
that would require even neighbours to rush in to rescue me from his punches and
grips. The only person who warned me in confidence was amiable Evelyn the wife
of Edward’s brother. She had always liked
me even while Edward and I were courting.
We would sit together and chat but she had kept something from me until
after my engagement party. She called me to the balcony of Edward’s house the
night after my engament party and counselled me about something she had been
hiding from me. She told me that the very problem that ran in the family of
Edward was anger, severe anger, uncontrolable anger that usually make them use their fists. She told me that her husband
Kelvin, (Edward’s elder brother) had same problem. She raised her blouse and showed
me some marks on her body due to bruises Kelvin inflicted on her while
battering her angrily. She reminded me of the very time she had a black eye and
I was asking what happened to her. She said it was one night when Kelvin came
back from work and he hunked for a long time but because she was in the toilet,
she couldn’t run to open the gate for him. And that delay resulted in a serious
beating. ‘Therefore my sister just be careful so that you don’t annoy him. I
learnt from his mother that his father had same problem. That his mother was
regularly beaten by theor father that she decided to go back to her father’s
house. Even as we discuss this now, she
is still lives there. I go there once in a while to visit her. She was the one
that gave me same advice that I’m passing down to you now.
‘You may not notice it now that both of you are courting and
had just engaged. You may not even notice his anger in the next couple of years after marriage. But don’t be deceived
with that. The anger is right inside his foundation. If you had been careful,
you must have been noticing the traces.’ Evelyn said. “Her advice made me
remember some stories Edward told me
concerning the way he flogged his houseboy who fled without carrying his luggage. And how his gate keeper ran away one day
leaving his gate unlocked after beating him up mercilessly. He told me that
both people angered him so much that he had to deal with them. And that soon he
would employ people to replace them. I took that lightly. My mind wandered off
to the discussion his driver had with
his friend at the petrol station when he was asked to drop me home. I overheard
when his friend was asking him how he had been managing to drive Edward that
psycho, that ill tempered young man.
That he had driven him before for months and that the way and manner he fumed at him each time he was angry made him resign
unceremoniously. I was listening with rapt attention,” she said.
When Roselyn eventually moved into Edward’s house as his wife, what Evelyn
warned her about started surfacing. “It wasn’t even up to one year when I
started receiving slaps from him anytime
he was provoked. I gradually started becoming scared of him. I wasn’t feeling
at home when he was around. My matrimonial home was only a safe haven when
Edward traveled out of town for weeks
but when he was home, I would always trade with caution. Nobody knew what I was facing in my marriage.
But I didn’t know his neighbours who knew him more than me were observing us.
They had known him for beating his girlfriends before he married me. So, when
we were courting, they expected same incident, where I would perhaps give out a
loud cry like the rest did, but nothing of such happened. He never hit me when
we were courting. He started after our wedding and because I didn’t want my neighbours
to know, I would endure his punches without crying out. The first person I ran
to was Evelyn when it started. She advised me to travel home to see his mother,
my mother-in-law whom I only saw once and that was on my wedding day. I agreed
and went from her house after staying two days with her,” she said.
It was seven hours drive from Lagos to Enugu-Ukwu where
Edward’s mother was. When she got there, she didn’t introduce herself to the
woman and she recorgnised her at once. She hugged her and first accused her
jokingly for not coming to see her all these while. “Sit down my daughter let
me give you water to drink. But you don’t look happy. I know you are troubled
but drink water first. You would take your bath, eat and sleep. Tomorrow
morning we would talk okay? Close talks are better done early in the morning by
then the brains must have rested enough, okay?” Roseline nodded, fighting back
tears.
*To be
continued next week
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